About Us

The Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) Society of British Columbia is an incorporated, grass roots society started by individuals with BPD and their family members.

Our Vision

All persons with BPD can live a satisfying and fulfilling life.

Our Mission

To provide education and support for people with BPD, their family members and friends; to increase awareness to the community at large throughout BC; and to promote research about BPD.

Our Brochure

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  1. Your blog rocks!! Excellent job!

    • Yes, I agree! This is a great site! Now I just have to find a time I’m free to come to one of the meetings. Missed the one on June 6th as I wasn’t in town. Back now (9th), but next one isn’t til the 20th. Grrrr!!!

      • Hey Matthew,
        We have a committee that is looking around for a new location to hold a meeting once a week. We hope to see you at our next meeting. I was away for the last meeting (2nd ever in 2 years!) Next meeting is July 18, next wednesday.🙂 Nice to see you on here.

        Baylie

    • I wish I could make it down to Victoria to attend one of your meetings. They sound very healing.

  2. Thank you for this site… a true blessing in disgise. Please feel free to pass along my secret blog. (identity witheld) I just started it, but would love to find others who also blog.

  3. Dont know exactly where to post this…..so I shall just leave it here. Couple questions if anyone can answer.
    1) is SIB considered a psychotic behavior? Seems that when I am on anti-psychotic medication, that it helps with the intensity of the SIB thoughts & feelings.
    2) Does anyone else on here deal with SIB urges on a daily basis? Including having very graphic visuals?

    • What does SIB stand for? Do you mean self injury?

  4. Just discovered your blog/group. You rock!
    I added you to my blogroll as well as posted a link on my blog. (http://iammental.wordpress.com/)
    I also spread the word on my BPD support Tumblr page (borderlinepersonalitysupport.tumblr.com/). I currently run my own BPD support group in my city.
    Would love to become more acquainted!

  5. i love your website!!! kindly send me mor info to my e.mail..i too am borderline/

  6. ive got bpd ill put you on my support page havent came accross this site before sounds really good

  7. I’d like to come to your meeting on dec 15th if it’s happening with Christmas and everything.

    • Hi Sean,

      Love to meet you. We meet every first and third Wednesday of the month at the BC Schizophrenia Society (Victoria Branch) British Columbia Canada, 7 pm 941 Kings Road. Our next meeting is Wednesday March 2nd. Hope to see you there.

      Elizabeth

      • Elizabeth,

        Is that on the East or West side of Quadra Street? I went along Kings Street from Quadra and walked towards Cook Street looking for anything that resembled an organization or meeting hall, but found nothing but houses and apartment buildings.

        Matthew (On Quadra by the Crystal Pool)

      • NOTE that our weekly support group runs out of the Capital Mental Health building at 125 Skinner (which runs between Tyee and Craigflower). Enter the building from the back parking lot, off Tyee. We start at 7:00pm and ends at approximately 9:00.

        Deborah

        Hi Mathew,

        It is on 941 Kings Road and Quadra. Accross the Street is a private university that used to be a public school. On Quadra you will see Fairway Market. Coming from Crystal Pool walk towards Hillside. You will reach Kings St. way before this and turn left.

        Hope that clarifies,

        Elizabeth

        PS. We meet at the BC Schizoprenia Society.

      • Ahhh!!!! That explains it!!! I walked on Quadra heading towards Hillside and came to Kings, but I turned to the Right, not the Left!!! Sorry!!! Thanks for clearing that up!
        Matthew

      • Great, see you then.

      • Hey,
        is there a meeting this upcoming Wednesday (Oct 3rd) at 941 Kings Road? I have never been to any meeting and just found this website.

      • Yes, but the meetings have now been moved to 125 Skinner Rd at the Capital Mental Health Association. The meeting starts at 7pm. Hope to see you there.

        Elizabeth

  8. It’s great that there are places like this on the internet – where people can get the help they need.

    Keep up the good work!

  9. I am new to this blog, but not new to BPD. I am not sure what can be share here and I would like someone to explain the “rules” to me. I have a lot to say, including disrepect from medical professionals, self-harm (not in detail of course”. eating disorders and anxiety attacks, dissociation and PTSD.

  10. Sorry I missed this month. Will there be a session in September? My mom and I wish to attend.

    • Yes, we are still going strong Sarah! I look forward to seeing you.

      Elizabeth

  11. Thanks so much for this blog — I hope to attend this coming Wednesday (Sept 21). I can’t wait to check out some other BPD blogs. Mine is http://www.heartjunky.wordpress.com. Did i mention it’s all about me? XO HJ

  12. Thanks for your blog! I write about this topic too as I have a mother with BPD. I am adding you to my blogroll and hope you’ll do the same (if you like what I am writing, of course!) http://simplelifelessons.wordpress.com/ It is just a way for me to vent since I don’t talk to anyone I know about this issue in my life.

  13. Not sure if my reply got through but I love your blog! I am adding you to my list! My mother has BPD and I write a blog on my frustrations, observations and to seek support from others who are going through the same thing. My blog is http://simplelifelessons.wordpress.com/ if you would like to link back. Thank you for sharing this blog with the world!

  14. great meeting. a little follow up, that i phoned duncan mental health and told them i was experiencing rage and abandonment, and was booked into see a therapist tomorrow morning. the lady on the phone said “well, (the doctor i mentioned at the meeting) doesn’t do much of the therapy — I’ll just say that.” She also said that CBT has been shown to have positive effects on bpd’s, so … i guess i’ll keep you posted. luv to your day. xo hj

    • Unless she is talking about Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT) or Dialectical Behavioral Techniques (as I like to call it in its self-help version) as a form of CBT it does not seem like you have received accurate information. CBT, in it purest form (it has now been widely influenced by DBT) can actually make BPD worse. This is why Marsha Linehan had to develop DBT in the first place. So many participants in her CBT class were dropping out that she had to come up with something radically different. You might consider asking her if she is familiar with DBT. Good luck, Elizabeth. Another option is to take the New Light Recovery Workshop in Victoria, BC (if you can figure out living arrangements) which offers a 18 week peer-led DBT course that I facilitate. Email me at bpdvictoria@gmail.com if you are interested. We are currently interviewing potential applicants.

      • hmmm. well, the name of the program is extremely vague (4-week or 7-week day program), so they are not calling it either DBT or CBT. just looked for online info about it, but there is none😦 Courses include Stress Management, Core Beliefs, Changeways, Yoga, Emotional Self-Regulation Training, Assertiveness, Drama Therapy, Art Therapy, Lifestyle, and local off-site activities. I feel better now that I have begun one-on-one therapy as well, but I’ll email you for more info on the New Light Recovery Workshop. Many thanks! Soooo glad to be in touch :))

      • @Support…..RE: CBT, in it purest form (it has now been widely influenced by DBT) can actually make BPD worse. This is why Marsha Linehan had to develop DBT in the first place. So many participants in her CBT class were dropping out that she had to come up with something radically different.
        ***************************************************************
        THANK YOU for saying this. I always knew it, and never met a therapist or anyone else…who knew it. Glad 2 of us now do.
        Question: Dr. Anthony Ruocco of the Univ. of Toronto has been doing research re: the neuro-cognitive deficits often seen with BPD….and I was wondering who else has had a disastrous work life due to some apparent pseudo-retardation…..who else with BPT that is? Please come back with something, whoever sees this…..

      • Hi Elizabeth
        I am wondering if the 18 week peer led workshop is still running in 2014.
        I am also wondering if you know of any support people/groups who, (like an AA sponsor) are available to do a daily ‘check-in’, of sorts.

      • Hi Jen: the peer-led workshop is not currently running, and we’re not aware of any organization who provides a daily check-in service. There are on-line services such as http://www.dbtselfhelp.com and http://www.dbtpath.net, but you may be interested in attending our weekly support group. It’s free, you don’t need a referral, and you don’t sign up for anything. We’re friendly and non-judgemental. While you’re at the group we can provide you with info on what services are in Victoria. Our group runs every Wednesday evening, 7:00 through 9:00. The location is 125 Skinner Street (CMHA building), in Victoria. Enter the building from the parking lot at the back, off Tyee Rd. Hope to see you there!

        Take care,
        Deborah

  15. I just wanted to say thank touting all our wonderful group members that keep our keep a strong, supportive, skillful group. Keep being yourselves. We couldn’t have this group without our members! As one of the creators of the support group, I truly appreciate everyone’s honesty and commitment for reaching out to get the receive support, even if like in my experience,

  16. Oops.. it sent before I was finished lol. I appreciate everyone’s honesty and commitment to reaching out for support, even if lie in my experience, it has been hard to find the right help. Xo

  17. Eliozabeth, you have done an awesome job on this blog…I love all the great posts people are leaving. Very resourceful! Keep it up! Hazel

  18. CTV is doing a series all this week on suicide and mental health in general, with the slogan: “break the silence, speak out, and offer hope.” Share your stories at:
    http://www.ctv.ca/CTVNews/CanadaAM/20110930/suicide-stories-canada-am-series-110930/
    hj luv

  19. Hi again :))) it’s Jude here. If there’s anyone who comes to this meeting from the Duncan / Cobble Hill area, id love to split the cost of the trip.

    I’m curious to hear others’ thoughts on inward (also known as “quiet”) vs outward borderline, and why these different presentations aren’t more widely known. I posted my own thoughts and findings at http://heartjunky.wordpress.com/2011/10/23/inwards-vs-outwards-no-one-is-better-no-one-suffers-more/.

    Still loving just knowing you’re there.🙂 Thx and blessings …

    • Hey!

      Nice to hear from you. Sorry if noone replied till now. I wanted to get back to you thought about your two questions.

      I will ask the group if anyone comes from Duncan/Cobble Hill area, as I realize that, that can add up for sure. As of now, I dont think there is. But I will put it out to the group and double check for you.

      I haven’t heard about inward vs outward Borderline, but I’m curious too, and will check out your link.

      How are you?

      Take Care
      Baylie

    • Im not sure about inward vs outward. Ive read that no bpd individual is the same in how they present themselves. I can tell you though that I was married to a bpd wife for a decade. It wasn’t until I realized she was having an affair that I deduced she had bpd. It was a shocking split,I was completely demonized. It was there all along but the divorce. brought out the bpd in full bloom. Im working on my own healing now while she continues to project.

  20. I just came across this site after a long search for help within the community, only to find most of the services are for women only, while they think men should be able to handle it themselves. I deal with PTSD in regards to the trauma of being sexually abused as a kid, and yet there’s only a Women’s sexual assault centre in town where men are not welcome.

    I also live with Epilepsy (controlled by Brain Surgery 2003) and the constant discrimination within our community because of it. Things such as not being allowed to drive and being classed unemployable “for the safety of others”.
    Also being sexually fixed, and even taken to court for attempting to marry a woman who also has epilepsy (we’d been dating since high school). It’s as if our society is saying people with disabilities are not allowed to be treated like normal people, just in case! Thoughts of suicide have often been the result, wondering if people including my family would really miss me, or just be glad that’s over?

    • Hey Matthew,

      Thanks for leaving us a message. Im sorry to hear the struggles you’ve been dealing with finding a group and with stigma around having disabilities. We welcome you to join our group, and although our focus is Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD), alot of people struggle with PTSD or PTSD like symptoms in our group. I also understand how hard it is to be discriminated against and this is a topic that arises in group. We also discuss some of the topics you brought up such as thoughts of suicide, and trauma. I hope my reply is helpful. We had a group tonight, so Im sorry you missed us but we are always here the 1st and 3rd Wednesday of the month at 941 Kings Street. The next group is on Dec. 7, 2011. Hope to see you there.

      Take Care
      Baylie
      A Facilitator

      “There is Hope and Help”

  21. There used to be a place in Victoria called the Men’s Sexual Assault Center but they were forced to change the name as Female Activists delaired it to be Discriminatory. If it is, then what about the Women’s Sexual Assault Centre only accepting Women and Children…why is that still allowed?

    It’s now called the Men’s Trauma Center and only deals with issues such as the loss of a loved one, or getting over the shocking memories of a car accident. Stuff like that.

  22. Thanks Baylie. It’s good to hear back from you. I’ve made some pretty big discoveries about the subtypes of bpd and the treatment options here on the island, and have recently posted them on my blog. I have left the day program here at the Cowichan Valley VIHA. I’m not sure what is going to happen next for me. I am still seeing a therapist here at VIHA, and doing a lot of art therapy. I’m also finding healing in Codependents Anonymous as well as something called Systemic Family Constellations. I’m looking into being able to attend some DBT therapy down there in Victoria at some point in the future (got my name on the list for the New Light Recovery Workshop), but mostly just taking it one day at a time here on the long and winding road🙂

  23. I am struggling with life as it crumbles beneath me. I think I have BPD the more I read. It has been a long haul getting to this point. Looking for some resources on the North Island (Campbell River area); anyone with any suggestions?

  24. Anonymous, Jan 24, 2012 and others. Wow. At 54 I’m finally realizing how messed up I am. I always thought I was just introverted and sick of humanity in general. Now I also believe I have something in the BPD spectrum, given my childhood and all my anger/alienation issues. I’ve been ‘working on it’ for better than 20 years and it’s getting worse as I go along. What a shame that so much information is known about mental stuff but it’s still so unavailible, unless you are wealthy and famous. Would love to do an 18 week mental rhumba with a group with a leader with some skills. I’d go into debt for it if I was sure it would make a real lasting difference! I think the isolation is probably the worst as others don’t ‘get it’! Hope we can make a community of healing with our numbers and our presence when we’re not hiding away!

  25. MY son has bpd, finally been diagnosed after 5 yrs. he also has a significant learning disability. I think the two are connected. VIHA does not employ therapists, they are counsellors, whose skills are very limited. We had no success with them, they only made things worse. He now goes to a pschologist with better results, but is still needing dbt therapy. It is offered in Vancouver at the dbt centre. At this time his anxiety level is too severe, so he is unable to get treatment for now. He is working with a support worker to help him get out more with less anxiety, this seems to be working well. He is on the list for Sept. workshop in Victoria. We live in the central island.

  26. I live in the US, can I still join the group? I was diagnosed w bpd recently I am 33 yrs old. At first I was mortified to be told of having any type of personality disorder, but after having done some researching, I actually felt much better as there is a reason why I have always acted out as a child, and why I now have uncontrolled anger and depression issues. Learning that there is hope for ppl like me makes it easier to go on.

  27. Great blog. Thank you.

    The Quiet Borderline
    http://quietbpd.wordpress.com/

    • Just wanting to let you know that once this website has its overhawl for the new society I will be sure to add your blog as a link.

      Elizabeth

      • Thank you Elizabeth, that;s very kind of you.

  28. Hello my name is Nicole. I am looking for a support group in Vancouver or the surrounding lower mainland. Does anyone know where I can find a group?

    • Not as far as I am aware Nicole. Sorry I cannot give you better news.

      Elizabeth

      • Hi Nicole,

        We have not formed a group in Vancouver yet. We will in the future. In the meantime, please call the DBT centre of Vancouver, as they may be able to direct you to resources in that community. I know there is a DBT program at St. Pauls Hospital for Vancouver residents; I am not sure about a support group.

        DBT Centre of Vancouver (I used this service, it is expensive but the people who answer the phones are free, friendly and knowledgable)
        604-569-1156

      • Hi,

        Thank you for your reply. I have been relentlessly searching online for any support groups here in vancouer. I have contacted the DBV centre and unfortunately the rates are too high for me. They do offer a group for their clients only at a rate of $95 per week. The website meet up has 13 people waiting for any BPD group to start anywhere here in the lower mainland. It saddens me to know that there are so many us looking for support and there are no free support groups to be found. I welcome the day you start a group out here. I will be there with bells on!

      • I understand the need and how its tough to find help. Is there anyone on the 13 ppl waitlist that has taken dbt. Understands it well and bpd. Or is people farther in their recovery? We can talk about training a few facilitators and then form a suppprt group. Also a supportive family member, friend or partner would be an important facilitator too. Were all peers and started our group from the ground up.

  29. I have just sent out some messages to some of the members of meet up in regards to the possiblilty of starting a group. I will keep you posted. Thank you for your prompt replies. I am so motivated to make this group happen in Vancouver. I apprecite your help!

    • There is the woman at the Mood Disorders Society of BC who contacted us about getting involved with our Society. She has BPD and was in an administrative role at the MDA. If you like, I can pass on your email to her. Perhaps you two could work together.

      Elizabeth

      • YES! YES! Please:)

  30. Elizabeth,

    I have connected with our friend from the Mood Disorders Society. She has connected with me over email and we are making a plan to facilitate a group here in Vancouver or the surrounding area possibly as soon as October. Thank you for taking the time to pass on my contact information. It was very kind of you. I will keep you posted in regards to our progress. Best compliments to you! Nicole

  31. Does anyone know if there are any future session dates for the New Light Recovery Workshop?

    • We hope to run it again in March. This is just tentative right now, but the BPD Society of BC is offering a Dialectical Behaviour Therapy skills group (DBT) with a Registered Clinical Counsellor for FREE! Please let me know🙂 There are a few spots left and I want as many people to benefit as possible. This is an initiative that has been made possible by our society: the BPD Society of BC.

      It starts Oct. 13 from 3-5 in Victoria BC on Skinner Road.
      It is every week for 18 weeks.

      Only requirements: That you have a counselor (I can help you access a free one if needed), and haven’t learned the skills before.

      250-532-6726
      bayliemcknight11@gmail.com

  32. if there is anyone that would like to attend a Dialectical Behaviour Therapy skills group (DBT) with a Registered Clinical Counsellor for FREE! Please let me know🙂 There are a few spots left and I want as many people to benefit as possible. This is an initiative that has been made possible by our society: the BPD Society of BC.

    It starts Oct. 13 from 3-5 in Victoria BC on Skinner Road.
    It is every week for 18 weeks.

    Only requirements: That you have a counsellor (I can help you access a free one if needed), and haven’t learned the skills before.

    250-532-6726
    bayliemcknight11@gmail.com

  33. Hi there, I was recently diagnosed with BPD. I am wondering how I would go about joining a support group?

    Thank you.

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  36. I’m looking for people with BPD in my area, lower mainland, I live in Langley, but I’m looking for people for support and friendship. I know how hard it is to make friends.
    Find me on Facebook “Carissa Gunner”
    Thanks!🙂

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  38. Wondering if anyone in Campbell river is bpd,sometimes I feel I am am alone..

  39. Hello,
    I live in Vancouver and am currently seeking a parent or family support group for adolescents diagnosed with BPD. I have reached out to Kelty Mental Health however they were unable to help. I was actually questioned about my daughters diagnosis because of the controversy surrounding “labeling” young people with the disorder. I could care less what it’s called and feel lucky that my daughter has not fallen through this semantic crack. She is 15 and currently in DBT. While she is struggling with the group portion of her therapy she has made a connection with her individual therapist and looks forward (mostly) to their time together.
    I can share my thoughts, feelings, concerns, and stories with a few friends and family but I’m not sure they understand how serious this disorder is. It was easy to explain and talk about her depression and ADHD diagnosis’ but BPD is such a complicated and largely misunderstood disorder I have a hard time explaining it.
    I have to defend her when people make judgments about her behaviour and myself when the judgments are about my parenting. Together my daughter and I have fought a hard battle against whats happening to her. However, we are accepting of what BPD means for us and are now learning strategies to keep her safe and empower her.
    I am open to hearing from anyone who has the time to drop me a line.
    Peace and comfort to you all.
    Jennifer

    • I wish I lived in VC but as a penniless American with no business-of-my-own I could not expect to be in VC except as a brief visitor…and never mind the steep rents. And I quit trying to reach out on these online forums because nobody was ever there when I needed them and that hurt more than not trying. And when I realized long ago I am literally stranded geographically where I am where there is virtually NO mental health help for most people….I knew that I would have to find a way to recover on my own “inner” resources OR just go without it. So that’s the deal. I would still be willing to offer any insights about any aspect of personal dysfunctions…I have built up a huge store of good knowledge. I could write a book or two about what I know but unless I knew I could at least make back the expense involved and get through to a scattering of people I would never consider doing it. If anyone ever wants to chat with me personally please call 405 376-3077 and I will offer anything wisdom I can. Otherwise I am muted. Labels are a trap though, I will say that. And for the best hope of recovery from ANY inner issue such as ADHD or BPD or whatever please first last and always…have some genuinely caring people around you. Just that can work about 99% of any “cure”. The cure is the caring.
      Blessing on you and yours, and may the following year and years begin to bring some of the hope we all need to go on and improve this little speck of blue out there in the wilderness. AMEN FOREVER

  40. Great publish ! Appreciate this information.

  41. Good info ! Thanks

  42. Great Info! Would be great if there would be an active online network as well.

  43. I live in Victoria and suffer from bpd serverly and need to know where to find support

    • Hi Joseph: the best place to start is our weekly support group. It’s free, you don’t need a referral, and you don’t sign up for anything. We’re friendly and non-judgemental. While you’re at the group we can provide you with info on what services are in Victoria. Our group runs every Wednesday evening, 7:00 through 9:00. The location is 125 Skinner Street (CMHA building), in Victoria. Enter the building from the parking lot at the back, off Tyee Rd. Hope to see you there!

  44. I live in Vancouver bc, and I am very interested in a support group for BPD!

    • Do u have BPD, or are you involved with someone w PBD.
      Have you gotten any help to date??

    • Hi,

      Are you looking to start one or looking for one already in existence?

      Thanks!

    • I’m told by my psychiatrist that I have many BPD traits and could possibly have BPD. I just began seeing this doctor. He suggested I find a support group. I’m 55 yr old female, I also have severe depression. I live in Vancouver.VGH area I would like to get together with a group or even just one or two other people to talk to and to support each other over coffee or a walk.
      I have other problems too. I don’t sleep well, I wake up every few hours through the night. It leaves me exhausted. I don’t yet take sleep medication for this. I live alone with my small dog. Eventual support meetings could be held at my place as ,I do have a very large penthouse apartment near VGH However, I prefer to take a walk and chat to get comfortable first though. I don’t have any friends so I feel very alone in this. I’m a single gay female so if this is an issue for you its better you know now .I make no apology for being a gay woman. I guess I’m looking for a new friend or friends who will understand me and not judge and who like to go for walks because I walk my dog around the city daily. If you are allergic, that could be a problem. I am not looking for a relationship at all, but I own my penthouse so a good friend could possibly work into a room mate situation. Or place to stay when you are suffering. I moved here from Alberta and don’t know many people. It doesn’t matter to me if men or woman respond. As long as we can relate and help each other through things.

    • Hi Sheryl,
      I was wondering if you had received my last reply? Are you still interested in that walk with our dogs soon? It seems not many people reply to each other on this site. Perhaps you know of a better site? I’m not finding any new friends here. Is Sheryl Fels your real name dear?

      • Does anyone use that chat room? Its empty when I’ve gone in.

      • H: the chat room isn’t provided by the BPD Society so I’m not sure what the status is. Sorry!

      • Hi
        And yes that us my real name. I really don’t like the idea if “hiding” who I am right from the start!
        However I don’t feel safe in these chat rooms- I don’t know enough about them, so I don’t use them.
        I can’t see why a walk with the dogs in the immediate area would be a nice introduction. Like I said, I have nothing to hide from😉
        So I hope we can meet on a sunny day and go for that walk!

      • Sounds good Sheryl. Where can I send you my contact info? I don’t want to post it here. The rest of February will be sunny and warm. I’m quite exited about this. I’m not used to this rain and dark days ):

      • Sheryl and Jayne: as the moderator of the site I can see your email addresses. If you both post that ypu agree, I can privately send you each other’s email address. But only if ypu both agree. And not until the daytime bevause I’m heading to bed. 🙂
        Deborah.

      • That would be great on my behalf
        Thank uou

      • Hi Sheryl: I’ve sent your email address off to Jayne, so hopefully she’ll contact you soon.

        Take care,
        Deborah
        BPD Society of BC

      • Hi,
        U can email me at
        Minnimze@gmail.com

  45. Please let me know if there are any groups that I can attend so I can assist my daughter. I reside in vancouver bc

  46. Hi there,

    I just emailed this same email to bpdsocietyofbc@gmail.com as I wanted to make sure I’d covered my bases.

    I finished a 4 month dbt group months ago. Since then I have slowly lost my skills and life has challenged me. I found myself able to cope using my skills and then less and less. My therapists and drs weren’t helping and I”m at my very bottom again. I have new people helping me and new things I”m trying but I did really find that the dbt therapy worked best with a group. However I’m not borderline peronality. I’ve been diagnosised so many times and drs just can’t put me in a box meaning it’s so interesting for them but frustrating for me because no one can really help me but myself. I’ve been high anxiety with a bit of this and that all my life and my last diagnosis was ‘mood disorder’ in the ‘other’ section as I don’t fit into any of the categories. I do struggle so much with my emotions and with interpreting social interaction properly… always reading things in the negative. I also love the mindfulness and meditate daily and need more help with distress tolerance.

    I would love to be part of a group again. I’m not sure if your group is open to people with other diagnoses that dbt has helped, but I thought I’d ask as I can’t get back into my last dbt class and the usat one… well appantly I’m not ‘sick enough’ for that… one of the prereqs is that you’ve had to attempted to kill yourself…. thinking about it it or other self harm doesn’t qualify. It’s shameful. There needs to be more help with this therapy… it works.

    Thanks so much for your time,

  47. hello my name is joseph and I suffer severly from bpd. and did not know what it was for over 13 yrs or so… life is very very difficult now that im aware of where my behavior comes from. however I am super fit and have an amazing drive so if there is anything I can do to help or volunteer… please let me know via email. as I am actually not well enough to hold a job for the first time im my life. im not sure if this was the idea in mind for the comment box. either way bpd is very real and detrimental to our lifes untreated.

    • Thanks for contacting us with the offer to help out. May I ask where you’re located (city)?

      Thanks,
      Deborah.

  48. hello my name is joseph!! im super fit and a nice person. but Im really ill with bpd and I need to talk to some one who understands the disorder… I have severe symptoms. live in Victoria bc 250-216-0118 :-):-) please call if u have bpd and live in Victoria…. im so alone right now it’s unreal lol

    • Hi Joseph. I think you’re the Joseph that comes to the wed night group. This is Alee. I’m bad with names so I wouldn’t be offended if you didn’t know who I am. I’m starting the dbt group with Amanda. It starts next thursday. I would like to talk to you about it and some other ideas I came up with that might help. Getting to know more and more about you in group has struck a chord with me. I can see how much you want help and are ready to do the work… and I want to help:) Get in touch with me if you want at aleechap@hotmail.ca

  49. Hey,

    I was wondering if theres still a support group on Wednesdays. I tried the number and the email address and they both do not work. Please let me know!

    • Hi Cara: yes the group is every Wednesday evening 7:00-9:00, 125 Skinner Street (enter the building from the back parking lot because the front door is locked after 4:30). We look forward to meeting you!

      Take care,
      Deborah

  50. Hi, I created a free online live chat group for BPD n BC. Just click the link, enter a fake name and enter the room. It is informal and UN moderated. Just leave if someone is abusive or u become upset and destabilized.

    http://www.chatzy.com/62409701940952

  51. Are there any Lower Mainland-area BPD support groups you know of? I can’t get to Victoria often.

    • Unfortunately, the group in Victoria is currently one-of-a-kind! People in several other countries are interested in starting similar groups, but so far Victoria has the only one. We’re aware of an informal “Meetup” group that gets together in the Vancouver area – the information is available at http://www.meetup.com/Bpd-support-group/ You join their online group and then you would receive notification of upcoming meetings. They appear to meet on an occasional basis. We do not have a formal link with this group, so we’re not able to provide you with any other details. If you do end up attending one of their group meetups we’d be very interested in hearing your feelings about it (send an email to bpdsocietyofbc@gmail.com).

        VANCOUVER AREA TREATMENT OPTIONS

      Surrey Memorial Hospital
      DBT skills, no individual counseling
      Referrals are accepted for BPD clients after an intake is done by the local mental health center for residents under the Fraser Health Authority – Doctor, mental health worker or client can refer themselves for treatment. In Surrey the number for mental health central intake is 604-593-4900.

      Vancouver General Hospital
      Client asks their GP or psychiatrist to be referred to “Vancouver Adult Mental Health – Outpatient”. If the client has had a psychiatric assessment within the past year, they can be put directly onto the wait list. If the client has not had a psychiatric assessment within the past year, one can be done by the VGH Outpatient psychiatrist before being put on the waitlist (initial assessment usually takes 4-6 weeks). The program waitlist is approximately 4-8 months. The program does not accept people living outside their authority (ie, not from New West, Burnaby etc). VGH does not provide individual counseling.

      Burnaby Child and Youth Mental Health through Ministry
      Team Leader – Hugh Hetner
      Full DBT program including individual, multi-family groups, coaching for family and youth, ongoing psychiatry consults, dietician
      Youth do not have to have diagnosis of BPD
      Youth must live in Burnaby
      Anyone can get a referral
      Intake – 604-660-9495
      Waitlist is none or few weeks to couple months

      Royal Columbian Hospital (New West) – no DBT (CBT only)

      Burnaby Hospital – no DBT (may in the future)

      Peace Arch (White Rock) – no DBT

      DBT Centre of Vancouver
      Offer a variety of fee-based services for adult and adolescent clients, their families, mental health providers, and the community. Services are not covered by MSP, but part of their services may be covered by extended health. Clients are advised to check their insurance provider’s policy under “psychological services” to find out their yearly limit as well as to see if coverage includes any level of clinicians or only specific types of clinicians. The Adult DBT Program is designed for clients ranging in age from 18 to 75 years and is provided in strict adherence with the DBT model developed by Dr. Marsha Linehan to provide all clients with the most effective treatment available for people struggling with difficulties dealing with and regulating emotions. This program involves: Individual Therapy, Group Skills Training, and Telephone Consultation. http://www.dbtvancouver.com

      OTHER RESOURCES: Vancouver Crisis Centre: 604-872-3311; Sunshine Coast/Sea-to-Sky Crisis Centre: 1-866-661-3311; Mental Health support line: 250-310-6789; Online chat service for adults: http://www.crisiscentrechat.ca; 1-800-suicide can refer people to counseling (free or on a sliding scale)

  52. Your mеans of describing everʏthing in this article
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  53. I think it’s fantastic that you have been able to open up and ask for support. Sometimes I find that just asking for help is the hardest thing for me.
    I live in Vic or i’d walk with you!
    Take care of you, always!!

    • Thanx
      U take care always😄

  54. Hi,
    I am a a gay woman in a long term telationship😉
    I too live close to VGH and have a small dog that I walk daily. I would love to go for a walk and just chat, and see if we have things in common- and hopefully back me friends!!
    Why don’t you get back to me with some of your contact details and we can plan a “walk”
    Hope to hear from you
    Sheryl

    • I would like to try this chat room someone on here created for us. It can be a private room or open. Sometimes I wake up during the night so lonely. .It would be nice to be able to do online chat with people who suffer as well with sleep disturbances. Could we first set up a time to have a private chat then later on see if our dogs get along and go for walks. I think a few conversations should tell us if we are pretty compatible don’t you think? Id like to do this once or twice before I give out my number or have anyone over if you don’t mind. I put in my name as $$GayLady

      http://www.chatzy.com/62409701940952 I believe that is the link to the room. Early evening would be a nice time for me. What about for you Sheryl?
      Thank you for your reply. Excuse me for any mistakes, I’m not completely sure how to operate this site yet. I do hope this reply gets to you.

  55. How does one know if their reply is private or not? Nothing to hide or anything. But I don’t see that there is a choice. I’m not sure anyone is getting a reply from me either. Just trying to connect through private reply. And how would one delete a post?

    • Hi: this is Deborah, the moderator. All posts are screen before being posted to ensure we don’t get nasty comments showing up that could be triggering for people.

  56. Hi,

    I’m wondering if there are any BPD support groups and meetings being held in Vancouver. BC.

    • Hi Sarah. The only resources we’re aware of in the Vancouver area are listed below. Hopefully you’re able to find something the works for you. Take care, Deborah.

      Surrey Memorial Hospital: DBT skills, no individual counseling. Referrals are accepted for BPD clients after an intake is done by the local mental health center for residents under the Fraser Health Authority – Doctor, mental health worker or client can refer themselves for treatment. In Surrey the number for mental health central intake is 604-593-4900.

      Vancouver General Hospital: Client asks their GP or psychiatrist to be referred to “Vancouver Adult Mental Health – Outpatient”. If the client has had a psychiatric assessment within the past year, they can be put directly onto the wait list. If the client has not had a psychiatric assessment within the past year, one can be done by the VGH Outpatient psychiatrist before being put on the waitlist (initial assessment usually takes 4-6 weeks). The program waitlist is approximately 4-8 months. The program does not accept people living outside their authority (ie, not from New West, Burnaby etc). VGH does not provide individual counseling.

      Burnaby Child and Youth Mental Health: through Ministry Team Leader – Hugh Hetner. Full DBT program including individual, multi-family groups, coaching for family and youth, ongoing psychiatry consults, dietician. Youth do not have to have diagnosis of BPD. Youth must live in Burnaby. Intake – 604-660-9495

      Royal Columbian Hospital (New West) – no DBT (CBT only)

      Burnaby Hospital – no DBT (may in the future)

      Peace Arch (White Rock) – no DBT

      DBT Centre of Vancouver: Offer a variety of fee-based services for adult and adolescent clients, their families, mental health providers, and the community. Services are not covered by MSP, but part of their services may be covered by extended health. Clients are advised to check their insurance provider’s policy under “psychological services” to find out their yearly limit as well as to see if coverage includes any level of clinicians or only specific types of clinicians. The Adult DBT Program is designed for clients ranging in age from 18 to 75 years and is provided in strict adherence with the DBT model developed by Dr. Marsha Linehan to provide all clients with the most effective treatment available for people struggling with difficulties dealing with and regulating emotions. This program involves: Individual Therapy, Group Skills Training, and Telephone Consultation. http://www.dbtvancouver.com

      OTHER RESOURCES: Vancouver Crisis Centre: 604-872-3311; Sunshine Coast/Sea-to-Sky Crisis Centre: 1-866-661-3311; Mental Health support line: 250-310-6789; Online chat service for adults: http://www.crisiscentrechat.ca; 1-800-suicide can refer people to counseling (free or on a sliding scale)

  57. Where are the group meetings held?

    • Hi: the support group meets 7 until 9 every Wednesday evening, in the Capital Mental Health building at 125 Skinner Street, Victoria, BC. If you would like more info just let us know. We can be reached at bpdsocietyofbc@gmail.com

      Take care,
      Deborah

  58. Does anyone know if there is a DBT program on the island? I had planned to move back home to the island (from Calgary) but have been referred to a DBT program in Calgary that has a 1 year waitlist and takes 1-2 years to complete. I just want to come home and don’t want to have to stay in Calgary for 2-3 years but obviously treatment is the most important thing right now.
    Thanks, Candice

    • Hi Candice: there is only one full DBT program on the Island. It is through Island Health’s Urgent Short Term Assessment and Treatment (USTAT) in Victoria. There is a screening process for accessing the program based partially on current severity of symptoms. There are only a few spots available a couple of times a year. You can ask a GP to refer you (to start the process) once you’re in Victoria. There are a few private counselors ($) around who teach DBT skills but don’t run a full program. The BPD Society has a weekly peer-run support group in Victoria on Wednesday nights. We (BPD Society) is working on getting a support group going in Nanaimo but we don’t have a start date for that yet.

      Take care,
      Deborah

  59. Good day. I was wondering if there were any debt support groups in the lower mainland of BC. Thank you. The BC Liberal government has screwed around with health care for years and subsequently they have screwed with the BPD program at VGH

    • Hi Keith: unfortunately, we don’t yet have a support group in Vancouver. There is a great program available through the DBT Centre of Vancouver, but there is a cost for that service. We’ve contacted VGH and confirmed that they currently have an 18 month waiting list so are not accepting any referrals at the moment. That is such a shame!

  60. Hi there,
    I would to know more about your group.
    I have BPD.I really need help.
    Thank you

    Veronique

    • Hi: there are currently three support groups. One in Victoria, one in Nanaimo and one in Vernon. Here’s the info for Victoria and Nanaimo (if you need Vernon’s just let me know and I’ll get that to you):

      VICTORIA: every Wednesday evening, 7:00-9:00 p.m. 125 Skinner Street (between Craigflower and Tyee). We enter the building through the doors off the back parking lot (on Tyee).

      NANAIMO: 1st and 3rd Tuesday evenings, 7:00-9:00 p.m. 3151 Barons Road, Nanaimo.

      We are a drop-in format, so you don’t have to sign up for anything and you don’t have to book in advance. Just show up. And there’s no cost.
      Take care!
      Deborah


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